Die erste Phase wird von Enttäuschung, Hoffnung, Wut, Angst und Selbstzweifeln bestimmt. In diesem Stadium versuchen wir, die Trennung zu leugnen. Wir wollen nicht wahrhaben, dass es einfach so vorbei ist. Wir können das Ende der Beziehung noch nicht richtig begreifen und wollen es nicht akzeptieren. In dieser Phase kreisen die Gedanken um den Ex-Partner, können nicht von ihm loslassen. Viele Menschen versuchen anfangs, Kontakt zu ihm aufzunehmen und um die Beziehung zu kämpfen. Erst wenn wir wirklich begreifen, dass die Trennung endgültig und unumkehrbar ist, sind wir bereit für Phase 2.
The Different Stages of Heartache
Depending on the situation, the degrees of pain vary and everyone deals differently. In principle, however, researchers assume that one can divide lovelorn into four different stages.
How Long Does Heartache Last?
There is no rule as to how long the heartache lasts and how much time we need to go through its four phases. Each person mourns the lost love for different lengths of time. The important thing is that we do not allow ourselves to be captured by our grief and do not lose sight of the light at the end of the tunnel. Because the good news is: As bad as the heartache may feel, it will pass. Even if it seems hard to believe: Time heals all wounds.
How to Deal with Lovesickness
Every person is unique and therefore everyone deals with grief, sorrow and pain in their own way. There is no panacea for heartache. Everyone has to find their own way to deal with it. The following 10 tips can help make the heartache more bearable and overcome it:
The Differences between Men And Women When Eexperiencing Heartache
As in many other areas of life, when dealing with lovesickness, there are gender-specific behavioral norms, which of course can vary from person to person.
Women Want to Put behind the Pain, Men Want to Suppress It
Most women need time for themselves after a separation, regardless whether they were the ones who broke up or the ones who were left. They want to mourn and analyze the failed relationship. And they want to deal with the pain. Only when they have accepted the separation and put behind the pain do they feel able to enter into a new relationship.
The way men deal with a separation depends very much on whether they were the ones who broke up or the ones who were left. After a break-up men often seek distraction. They exercise, bury themselves with work, got to parties or look for a new partner. Men who were left, on the other hand, are usually in shock and suffer greatly. Often they view themselves as a failure in such situations. However, they do not want to admit how much they suffer, not even to their best friends or family. Even though heartache can be almost unbearable, it does not last forever. Quite the opposite, if a new woman enters their life, it can vanish as quickly as it occurred. Unlike women, most men do not properly put behind old relationships, but just move on. In general, women emerge emotionally stronger from a separation than men. A recent study by Binghampton University in New York shows that women suffer more from lovesickness, but men suffer longer.